Can too much determination be fatal for an entrepreneur?

Personal sacrifice comes with the label entrepreneurship. As one, I tend to put many aspects of my life behind BeConnections. I call it determination, but could an overdose of this be cancerous?

I had a meeting on Sunday in Manhattan and decided to come into the city a day early to see my friends from college. We dined at a Mexican restaurant in the West Village and reminisced on our years at American University in Washington D.C. It had been 7 years since our graduation day and our first expression lines around the corners of our eyes revealed signs of hard work and luckily for all of us, of professional progress since then, too.

“It’s easy to forget how far we’ve come” — Beth Orten

Financial district, NYC

Financial district, NYC

My closest friend that evening is pursuing a Master’s Degree in Public Health at Colombia University. The next two years will tell a story of determination and sacrifice. Her sacrifice during this time is nearly mathematical.

After two years of hard work and perseverance, she will receive a Master’s degree from a leading University in the US. That diploma will lead to a wealth of opportunities, which in turn will be attached to a monetary compensation. And rightly so. She will have earned it, for that diploma represents an investment made into her education.

Education is a safe bet… but is entrepreneurship?

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As my friends and I were catching up, I was also receiving a thread of messages from a fellow entrepreneur in Boston who was going through a very difficult moment in his life.

This friend of mine is in his mid 50s and he had, also, made a bet.

He had bet his house. He had bet his family. He had bet his life… on an investment that, unlike education, is far from safe. This bet was on his startup and he was all in.

Which brings me to the point of this post. Can too much determination be fatal?

“Where the story ends depends on how far we go” — Beth Orten

Passion and determination are fundamental elements for every startup, and a founder without those two elements will, ultimately, fail. However, too much of anything is called an overdose and that can be fatal if not reversed.

“I wonder where these dreams go when the world gets in your way” — The Goo Goo Dalls

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Pitching BeConnections to a crowd of 200 people on Dat Venture’s Demo Day. Boston, 2015

For that reason, I’ve added an additional element to my equation, which is pragmatism. The ability to take a step back and make rational choices will mark the difference between a founder who runs her startup and a startup that runs a founder’s life.

Which scenario do you prefer?


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Founder Carlota Pico is currently in Boston launching the network in the US via Massachusetts. She is working closely with private and public agencies to provide local companies with a hub online to meet and connect on in real-time. Her long term vision is for BeConnections to be a source of greater deal flow and partnership opportunities across borders and industries. To be part of this mission, join  www.beconnections.com — it’s free!

Meet my boyfriend

It’s the prelude to Valentine’s Day and I’m spending the night with my lover. We’re at the office waiting for everyone to pick up their things and finally leave. No distractions, no small talk. Just him and I alone in a dark and empty office space at WeWork in downtown Boston. Did someone say that 50 Shades of Gray was coming out this weekend…

I fell in love roughly a year ago. He was a hot commodity at the time. So strong. Impeccable style. Loads of energy and above all, intelligent. So smart that sometimes he could just read my mind with the stroke of a finger.

The first nights I would look at him in awe and ask myself how I got so lucky?

And then it clicked. Money buys everything.

All the single ladies Now put your hands up

Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh

(Beyonce)

I’m talking about my Mac. And I was kidding before. Money doesn’t buy everything, but it sure was handy when I was at the apple store picking out my laptop.

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And yes, I’m at the office with my beautiful and durable (I hope) MacBook, working on this blog post on Friday evening. For everyone who hasn’t gotten it yet, I’m an entrepreneur.

We had interesting guest speakers come in this week to talk to us about product development and design, one of whom made a solid point about apple products and particularly iPhones. Much of the brand’s success was thanks to its ability to connect to its audience.

I would consider myself to be a Mac lover. I have practically all of its “i” products… iPod, iPhone, iPad and iMac. Why? Because Apple has created beautiful and easy to use products for consumers that know very little about technology or engineering, like me.

I spend endless hours at the office working on BeConnections, and the last thing I want to invest my time in is on figuring out how a program works. Conclusion: Apple doesn’t force me to think, which is key to a product tailored to a mass audience.

But unlike Apple products, Valentine’s Day is a mass commercial holiday about relationships with people, which don’t come in packaged models.

So today’s post goes out to all those people who made me feel differently each year on this day. To my friends, family and the unlabelled:

When I see your face

There’s not a thing that I would change

‘Cause you’re amazing

Just the way you are

(Bruno Mars)

And that’s a wrap…my Valentine’s Day 2015 begins now!

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